Talking about sex initially can be a little hesitant for you or your partner. Start your talk slowly with a complete acknowledgement of the comfort zone of your partner. A lot of people find it okay to talk to complete strangers and discuss their sex life with them rather than with their own partners.
Because of this, you need to make sure you are creating a safe space for your partner. Make them trust you enough. Not just in the initial stage but the sex talk can be required at several stages in your sexual life. Why do you think that is important?
Why is it necessary to talk about sex with your Partner?
“Communication is the key”, this saying is quite literal here. Until and unless you openly talk and discuss the way you want your sex life to be, your desires can never be fulfilled the way they should be. Having sex is an activity of two equals, you deserve to be happy and fulfilled as much as your does.
Before knowing how to do something, we need to understand “why” is necessary to do it. Here are some reasons why it is necessary to talk openly about sex with your partner.
- You understand your partner in a better way
- You get physically comfortable with your partner
- Discussing sexual satisfaction
- Talking about sexual desires
- The changes in libido
- If there is any security with any body part or the way you look
If you fail to communicate about your sex life with your partner without any hesitation, your chances of being satisfied by your partner certainly decrease. Now the question that comes is, how to talk about sex with your partner without making them uncomfortable or without being uncomfortable yourself?
How to talk about sex?
Start Softly
Don’t rush with the communication as talking about sex can be uncomfortable for a lot of people. Start getting close to your partner, try and get intimate. Make sure you never criticize them or play blame games with them, because that will bring no good to your relationship.
Focus on Intimacy
The level of your intimacy should be your utmost priority while having sex. If you have sex just for the sake of getting physical with someone, you will hardly be able to enjoy it. It is necessary to talk about whatever you feel, your emotions, your desires, and anything that comes to your mind when you talk about intimacy need to be communicated.
Avoid surprises
Avoiding surprises here means that you don’t let your partner guess anything about you or make sure that nothing is new for them in bed. Nobody likes surprises in bed until they are big ones if you know what I mean. Give your partner a heads up about anything and everything before getting into bed with them.
Don’t Avoid Sex Talk
If you feel that your partner is comfortable talking to you about their sexual desires or part life, be open about it. Try not to be uncomfortable about anything. It is important to be as understanding as possible. Avoiding sex talk will eventually lead to a decrease in intimacy and fun in your relationship because either one of you will not be satisfied with the other one.
Note –
It is better that you frequently talk about sex with your partner to make it less awkward for them and yourself. Why is it important? You cannot read the mind of your partner, nor can they read yours.
Talking about sex needs to be done at a safe place, where you guys are not interrupted and can openly discuss it without any hesitation. If it requires you to go on a vacation, so be it. Push your limits to satisfy your partner and their needs.
Talk to them if they are comfortable about spicing up stuff after a while, if yes, try new stuff for yourself and for your partner. It helps and never makes your sex life dull. Start the communication smoothly and never push your partner into it. Make sure you are never pushing them beyond their comfort zone as sexual talk can be sensitive for lots of people.
Understanding the past of the person to know how they need to be loved is very important. It helps us to know their wants and needs. And all this can only be done by healthy communication and a bunch of dirty talks!
