Recognising the Signs and Knowing When to Leave
It might be difficult to know when to end a relationship. Between your positive sentiments for your partner and the aspects of the relationship that are miserable for you, you could feel conflicted.
Regardless of whether the relationship has become harmful, it could be simpler to stay than to leave and start again. That’s sort of what we’re encouraged to anticipate from love, so you could think that things will finally change and turn out for the best.
So you keep attempting to maintain a toxic relationship. The right to feel content and blissfully coupled up, however, can be denied to you if you become overly comfortable (even when you are not happy) or become too afraid to terminate a relationship.
Look within for the solutions and question yourself just as much as your partner. You might want to think about making adjustments that will benefit you, your spouse, and your relationship if you feel that your needs are not being met or that your relationship is far from what you need.
If you and your spouse aren’t compatible, keep in mind that leaving the relationship is beneficial to both of you, even if your partner doesn’t initially perceive it that way.
The traits listed below can help you determine if this is a healthy relationship for you.
Controlling Behaviour
It’s a good idea to leave your relationship if you see that your partner is acting in a domineering manner toward you.
Controlling behaviour can begin as small, seemingly benign routines, inquiries, or requests from your partner. But if left unattended for too long, it can develop into a patt. You might not realise until the situation has reached a crisis point, but at that point, you also feel that leaving means starting over.
Less Pros and More Cons
Consider the advantages and disadvantages of your relationship; if necessary, develop a list. When you take a closer look at your relationship and realize there are more issues than you first thought, it could be time to call it quits.
Relationship Anxiety
Doubts about oneself and one’s partner can put a lot of strain on a relationship. It is normal to occasionally feel anxious, especially when dealing with depression. Your partner might not be doing you any favours if you constantly wonder whether your relationship will last in the long run. You might want to reevaluate how compatible you are in this relationship.
Toxicity
Some relationships eventually deteriorate and practically become unsalvageable. If you sense that your relationship is going in that direction, you may want to leave the poisonous environment before you become overly involved. Again, toxic relationships might be undetectable at first, so look out for them before descending farther down the pit.
When Your Near and Dear Ones Think So Too
If you have friends and relatives, they probably know you very well in some situations, even better than your spouse. They might have your best interests in mind if they largely concur that your partnership isn’t working out for the best. Naturally, there are those families where your relatives may not know you well enough to give an opinion. However, if they highlight genuine red flags, you might want to reevaluate your decision.
How to cope with an ending relationship?
- Even if it means going back on the terrible moments, difficult days, and unpleasant memories, remind yourself of the reasons you ended the relationship. You’ll be more able to stand by your choice.
- Find your people and share your pain with them. You don’t have to burn down all your walls for this but the ability to be able to express yourself to a close friend or someone in the family will make you feel better and provide you with a better insight into your own situation.
- Cut off all contact with your former partner. The desire to speak with them once again could be overwhelming, but if you give in, you might be putting yourself in the same situation as before.
- Put your effort into something else, anything! You now have time for everything else that is beneficial for you, including your interests and hobbies, which had to take a backseat to your relationship. Work on re-establishing connections and bonds with family and friends as well.
- Attend therapy. It’s time to speak with a professional if you see that you are becoming depressed or really unhappy (if you are able to afford one).
Conclusion
To put it in the words of Omar Lee, putting an end to something doesn’t have to be accompanied by regret, resentment, or hostility. We have memories and experiences with a purpose.
Keep in mind that it is acceptable to wish to quit a failing relationship. You decide when to call it quits, how to handle the breakup, and what warning signals to look for.
