Do you feel like social gatherings are not the kind of fun you want in life? Does it drain your battery when you socialize ? Would you prefer to spend time alone rather than with people? If you answered that as a Yes you might be an introverted individual.
People usually tend to perceive introverted people as shy, awkward with communications, anti-social etc. which is not true. They have their own traits which shows that socialization is not their cup of tea.
Who is an introvert ?
The American Psychological Association tells us that introverts tend to lean toward their inner feelings, thoughts and self. They are more quiet, reserved and withdrawn, and they usually prefer to work alone.
How to know if you are an introvert or not ?
Understanding your own traits rather than being pointed out by others is important. Listening to other people’s opinions and framing judgment about yourself is the worst thing you can do for yourself.
Here are a few signs that you will find in yourself if you are an introvert:
Socialization exhaust you
Whenever you are around people, you feel like your battery is draining. Social life tends to make you feel exhausted. One of the major traits of introverted personalities is that their energy is reduced by socialization whereas extrovert people on the other hand gain energy from socialization.
This doesn’t mean that introverts don’t like to socialize at all. It is just that they prefer to be alone rather than around groups of people.
Prefer to be alone
Do you prefer to spend time with yourself rather than with a bunch of other people? Do You find peace with yourself and feel like you are losing energy with people? If Yes you might be an introverted person.
You might talk to people to make them feel comfortable and make sure that they are not weirded out because of you, or they might not feel that you are not comfortable talking to them, but that’s not what you would prefer. You would want to stay at home rather than visit a party !
Your Inner Circle is very small and limited
Another trait of an introverted personality is that you might talk to lots of people in different situations at different places but the number of people who are close to you is very small.
You might have a large social life but when you sit and think of people whom you can rely and trust, most important with whom you would prefer to spend time at the end of the day, you will come up with 2-3 names at maximum.
You don’t let anyone enter your life just like that, you always draw boundaries around yourself and you let very selective people enter those boundaries.
You don’t feel comfortable when people try to get close to you
Does it happen with you that people complain that you push people away from yourself? Do others feel like you always put barriers around yourself and are not comfortable with them? If yes You might be an introvert.
You feel uneasy about sharing your personal information with others. Even if you don’t feel like there is any point in sharing your information or your experiences with others in the first place, because you know they can’t help you. You don’t even prefer to seek help easily from others.
You Need everything properly planned
Introverts tend to plan everything beforehand. They make lists and then lists of lists! They do this to make sure they don’t miss on anything. This also makes sure that they don’t have to rely on anybody else rather be self-sufficient in any situation.
Asking for help is not easy for an introvert, they might feel like they are asking for a huge favor from the person. This trait makes them a little more aware about themselves, they overthink about their actions before doing anything.
Prefer to write rather than talk
If you are an introvert you will prefer to write texts or letters over directly talking to someone face to face. Introverts are bad with confrontations. Whenever someone calls an introvert, they tend to either decline the calls or wait till the call ends and then text the caller with some reason for not picking up the call.
People think they are anti-social but this is not true. They are just not comfortable with talking, or confront their emotions or feelings to someone face to face. They have a slight fear of being judged by others, or how ill they react to what they say or do.
Are Self aware
Being highly self conscious and aware about oneself is just another trait of being an introvert. But being self aware doesn’t mean that you are an introvert, it is just an additional trait. You think a million times before taking a step in a relationship, or making a career decision or maybe shifting your house.
You are highly aware about your behavior and your traits. The fact that you overthink makes you feel familiar with most of the situations in your life because you have already at least once thought about that situation taking place in your life, making you prepared to deal with it.
Too much stimulation makes you distracted
In a place with hectic situations, it can make you distracted and you can feel annoyed by the situation in general in such a place.
For instance you are driving, listening to your favorite music, a car suddenly overtakes and your phone rings at the same time. Here a lot of simulations are occurring suddenly, which might make you distracted. Your focus is likely to distribute amongst various external signals.
Careers that have independence attract you
Do you think of having a career that has minimal human interaction or maybe a profession where your work does not depend on any other human being? That is how introverts plan their career. They try to avoid human interactions and socialization wherever possible.
So having a career where your work is affected by other humans is likely to be avoided by people with introverted personalities.
You are highly observant
Do you notice everything around you, from the color of your friend’s shirt to the way someone says “Hi” to you ? This is another majorly observed trait of an introvert. They are highly observant and tend to notice things that lots of people miss to see.
Introverts open their eyes and ears and shut their mouth in most situations. Even if you are not an introvert, learn this trait from them to speak limited, this increases the worth of your words being uttered from your mouth. Listen and observe more !
Conclusion
Being an introvert or an extrovert is completely your preference. No personality type is superior or interior from the other one. So be yourself and most importantly Love yourself champ !
