When you are in a relationship, you need to balance a lot of emotions anger, care, possessiveness, jealousy, love, etc. Every emotion carries equal importance but the proportion it comes with makes all the difference. Also, this can be subjective to individuals due to their nature and nurture.
Red Flags in a Relationship
Now let’s see a few red flags in a relationship that cannot be ignored at all:
Overcontrolling Behavior
If you ever feel like your partner is trying to control you directly or indirectly, consider it a huge red flag. The person might directly force you or ask you to do certain things or might indirectly/in a subtle way make you feel wrong about what you are doing if they don’t like it. Indirectly molding your behavior in the ways they want you to behave.
Anger Management Issues
Not being able to manage any emotion is not acceptable, especially when it comes to anger. A person tends to misbehave and say negative things when they are angry and they end up hurting themselves and you as well.
Physical, Mental, or Emotional Abuse
Abuse of any kind should not be accepted, be it physical, mental, or emotional. There can be times when emotional or mental abuse is not very prominent. It needs to be figured out how in subtle ways you are being abused.
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Dependency of Partner
Your partner should not be highly dependent on you for everything they does. It might sound romantic when your partner says “you are my life” but in reality, the truth is they are a “part of your life”. It is true that they are an important part of your life but in the end, they should be a part of your life only, not your entire life.
If they depend on you for every small thing they do, it will eventually become an obstacle for you, you should have a partner not a child in form of your partner.
Inconsistency/Ghosting Behavior
When your partner is not behaving consistently with you in the same way, one day with others they are making fun of you and the very next day alone they show you affection, it should not be accepted. They should behave consistently. One should adhere to their words, whatever they are saying should also be reflected in their actions.
Non-committal Behavior
Your partner should be able to give you some commitment in a relationship, maybe not a long-term commitment but at least some assurance that will be comforting for you. Wanting a commitment is not a high “demand” rather it is a bare minimum need. If your partner refuses to do so, you should walk away with pride.
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Lying Behavior
When your partner lies, even if you catch him/her red-handed or not, you tend to lose your trust in them. Every time you will talk to them, you will end up doubting him/her. Lying does nothing but break bonds and makes the base of the relationship weak. Why would one lie anyways? The need to hide something from your partner clearly shows they are not appropriate for you.
They Call Their Exes “baffling”
If a person cannot respect the love and time someone gave them just the way they did, they might not ever do the same for you either. Whenever they were dating their ex, they must have been doing it with their consent and if they regret their decision and can disrespect them now, they can do the same for you too.
Social Media Obsession
If your partner feels the need to share every single bit of your relationship on social media and gets affected by the replies of other people about you, consider it a huge red flag. Private relationships are the ones that succeed with flying colors. Regularly uploading your pictures, reading the comments, again and again, and copying influencer couples, are very negative traits.
Conclusion
Here are some very common, yet unevidenced red flags. Lying, cheating, and abuse are major red flags that are highly evident, the rest of them needs high observations and time. When you spend time with your partner, you need to start being rational and understand the behavior they treat you with, not the one you want to be treated like.
