If you have ever fallen in love with anybody you must know that not every relationship is the same as the other one, Is it? There is a possibility that the way you love your partner is different from the way your best friend loves their partner.
Also there are different stages of love, the feelings you have for someone in the early stages of a relationship eventually grow with time, they don’t remain constant. If they don’t grow, I am afraid you are not on the right path.
Passionate Love
Passionate love is the feeling of excitement you feel in the initial period of your relationship. There is an infatuation for the partner. A sense of powerful love between both partners, that shows passion for each other.
The honeymoon phase of your relationship where every things feels beautiful. Even the flaws of your partner attract you in these flames. When you are passionate about your loved ones, you tend to understand them, you want to know more and more about them. You are intrigued to know every single part of that human.
If the passion is prolonged, the passionate love certainly turns into compassionate love, also known as Companionate love. If the chart of love goes downwards in the passionate love, there is no way one can reach the compassionate stage as this stage is arrived after complete trust and obsession towards your partner.
Characteristics of Passionate Love
Passionate love has several signs to be identified. They can be either cognitive or behavioral. Some of these are as follows;-
Constantly thinking about your Partner
Your passion for your partner is seen by how much you think about them when they are not around. People in the initial stages of relationships are highly passionate about their love.
Their mind keeps on running thoughts about their partner and they are all they think about. Daydreams about their love life and smiling when sitting alone, yes , that’s exactly what passionate love is. Thinking not just about the partner but most importantly for the partner!
Idealizing the Partner
In passionate love, the person is likely to believe that they have found the
“Perfect person” for themselves who is just like them. Just like the person they have been looking for since forever. They notice no flaws, even if they do, they love them.
They make themselves believe that this relationship or this partner can cause me no harm, and they can never bring anything negative in my life. They start idealizing either the partner or the relationship.
Raise the level of understanding
The person wants to understand the partner and wants to know more about them. There is a positive curiosity inside them to dig into the life of their love and try and get to know as much as they can about them.
The feeling is not one sided here, they not only want to understand their partner, rather they also want to be understood by their partner. They want their partner to have the same positive curiosity about themselves as they have.
A Want to stay Close to their Partner
The person in love wants to stay physically close with their partner. Whenever they go away from them even for a short period of time, they tend to feel major discomfort.
In addition to such a high level of attraction, there is a physical proximity that both partners tend to maintain for their comfort.
Extreme Emotions
If things in the relationship are going well, passionate people tend to enjoy it very nicely. But if things go south, they fail to handle the situation nicely. Things go extreme and they feel devastated.
Compassionate Love
Passionate love on one hand is defined by its intensity, Compassionate love on the other hand is defined by its intimacy, affection, commitment and the trust in the relationship. Compassionate love is not built in a short term relationship.
Here, the passion for the partner is still there, but the love is expressed peacefully and with no urgency. The level of care is very high for the partner. There is a deep connection between the two people and it is no more just infatuation.
People who are in compassionate love also go through disagreements in their relationship but they tend to deal with the situation with utmost love and patience. They understand each other’s opinions and respect them.
Characteristics Of Compassionate Love
Compassionate love has several signs to be identified. They can be either cognitive or behavioral. Some of these are as follows:-
High level Of Intimacy
The level of intimacy and comfort with your partner is extremely high here, you share everything with them and they share everything with you. They end up loving every little aspect of their partner and relationship.
Trust
You start trusting the person more than anyone, you rely on them blindly and believe that they can cause you no harm in any possible way. You trust that my partner is my well wisher and will always be there for me whenever I need him/her.
Enduring Commitment
There is belief and a long term commitment in the relationship, that this ship will definitely sail and the lovers will definitely be there for each other till the end. Such a huge commitment can be burdensome for a couple in passionate love, but when there is compassion such a commitment becomes easy for you.
Conclusion
How do you know if you will end up in a passionate or a compassionate relationship? There are numerous factors that help us in knowing the same, such as the timings, if you and your partner both are ready for a relationship or not. Another factor being Similarities, there is scientific evidence that shows that similar people are likely to attract each other rather than the ones with differences.
In conclusion, an important thing to note is that compassionate love is the one that stays with you in the long run, not passionate love. So be obsessed with the person you love, not for a short period of time but for years and years! Show them how important they are to you, sit close to them, listen to them, and give them the love they deserve in the way they want it not in the way you want it.
