Every individual can have different ways of expressing how they feel about their loved ones. It is not necessary that the way you express your love is similar to that of your partner although it’s a win-win situation when you and your partner have the same love language.
Everyone wants to make sure that their partner is aware that they care about them. But some of us are not very comfortable doing it verbally by expressing our feelings rather they have their own language.
To better understand this there are 5 love languages given by a psychologist named “Pastor Gary Chapman”. He explained these 5 love languages in his book according to his observation through his couple counselling.
Let’s know What Are the Five Love Languages and what they mean –
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Physical touch
- Acts of service
- Receiving gifts
Words of affirmation
Words of affirmation include direct verbal confessions about how you feel about your loved ones. When you talk to them about your emotions, you appreciate them whenever you get the moment to do so. You feel comfortable talking to them about how you feel and expressing your love with words.
If you are not nurtured in a family with an affectionate environment, you might not be very comfortable upfront looking at your partner and telling them how much you love them, that is when you switch to another mode of expressing love.
Quality time
Spending quality time with your loved ones and doing anything and everything is another language of love. Whenever you are with them they should feel that they have your complete focus. They have your complete physical and mental attention.
Being there for someone for a long time is not as easy as it might seem. Give them your time which is most precious in any relationship.
Quality time can include anything from the simplest things like watching a movie together to big steps like going on a world tour with them. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it has to be simple and easy. Your love life with your partner is not supposed to be tough for you to handle.
Physical Touch
Most people have their primary love language as physical touch. People feel loved when they are touched. Sex is one such way, but when the person is touched with pure intention, they feel even more loved and comfortable with you.
Simple acts and gestures such as cuddles, holding hands, touching their arm, running fingers or a simple massage after a hectic day.
Having physical comfort with your partner is as important as an emotional connection. If your partner is hesitant when you go close to them, understand that their love language is not physical touch.
It’s always good to communicate about your wants and needs with your partners and see where you guys have similar tastes. It helps you understand them better and love them the way they need to be loved.
Acts of service
Acts of service include doing small things for your partner without asking or expecting anything in return. Things you do to help them to make them feel a little at ease come under this.
These activities include running errands for them like vacuuming, doing the dishes, filling up the gas tank, helping them in their professional work or anything else. You should never think before lending a helping hand to your partner, this comes under the care you want to show them, and make them feel special.
This is a very commonly seen love language where the person feels the emotions but fails to express them to their partner.
Receiving gifts
Some people feel special when they receive random gifts from their partners. They feel that it is assuring to know that when they are not around their partner, they still think of them. Bringing gifts that have some emotional value to it, for the couple, is another important thing for them.
These are not materialistic people, rather they look for an emotional value in the gifts they receive from their partner. It’s a win-win situation where a person who loves to make their partner feel special via bringing them gifts meets someone whose love language is receiving gifts.
Conclusion
It is okay to have a different love language from your partner, the important thing is that you communicate your language with them and be aware of theirs.
Once you know what your partner needs, you will be able to love them the way they want and ask them for the same. It is normal to confront if you are not receiving enough in your relationship. Communication is always the key in such instances.
