Have you ever felt the need to detach yourself from someone but found it extremely difficult and painful to do so? Do you know when to stop loving someone?
Maybe your girlfriend/boyfriend or even a toxic friend for that matter, in some cases even the relatives need to be pushed away for your own peace. Moreover, everyone tells us “how to love someone”, and different ways to shower your love on people but nobody tells us the importance of stopping your love if necessary.
How to stop loving someone?
People’s love can be subjective, their relationships can be built in their own style, their own ways, and can have their own terms. So, it becomes very obvious that stopping that flow of love can be different for each one of us.
For instance, you might recover from your breakup in a week or so, but your friend on the other hand might take a few months or even a year.
Stop Giving Explanations
Whenever you will stop giving your efforts in any sort of relation, the person at the receiving end will ask you millions of questions because he/she won’t accept your change, they might even end up accusing you of who you have become, what changed you, who changed you etc, but never let all this come in your way.
Nobody else deserves an explanation for your actions, just make sure you never hurt anyone, especially yourself. At the end of the day if loving someone is making you feel empty, walk away without a second thought.
Find Your Peace
People might find their peace in you, but it’s important to realise that you cannot always stick around for their peace, if walking away gives you your peace so be it. Also, a very important point to note here is, that never make a person “your peace”, because “forever” is a myth, so whenever someone walks away from our life or we walk away from their life, we end up feeling empty.
So be peaceful with yourself, engage yourself in your hobbies, love the way you are, and stop fighting to make yourself better for someone else, rather than do all the efforts to become a better self for your own future self.
Engage yourself
Try and occupy your mind as much as possible, the more you remain idle, the more flashbacks you receive. Any free time you have, even though you are not doing any job but your brain still does. You might end up in deep negative thoughts that will make you question yourself and your decisions.
Look for any activities which give you happiness, but let’s make it clear that these activities should not be your “way out” from your emotions rather they should be just a mere distraction from the issue. If you start finding these activities as a way out, you will never be able to recover fully.
Socialisation
Increase your level of social interaction, talk to your friends and family more, and make sure you have someone whom you trust and who is non-judgemental of what you are doing. Go out and have a conversation about what you feel, about what you are going through.
At times leaving the person you love is not even your choice but is circumstantial that you can not be together with them anymore. Try to make it work, but if things are not in your favour, it is okay to walk away with no regrets and utmost happiness.
Never Lower Your barriers
The person whom you feel is toxic to you might try to reach out to you after knowing that you want to get away from them, that is where you need to be strong and pull up your barriers and personal space.
Not picking up calls, muting, blocking, all this is part of self-care when necessary. It is not all disrespectful to their love for you or your love for them rather it is a basic right to distance yourself from something or someone to gain your mental stability and peace.
Conclusion
We often end up being rude when we try to unlove someone. But the question that arises is, can we ever stop loving someone? We suppress our emotions in the subconscious mind but it never disappears from our mind. Yes, it is true that we might not feel the same way for someone now, as we felt before.
It’s either your emotions playing with you, or else it is you playing with your emotions. Handle yourself with utmost control. If genuinely, the person is toxic to you, it is better to control yourself and think about your future and stop! Most importantly, Be yourself and Love yourself.
