A personal lesson has always been to talk to me the way I would talk to my best friend who is in need of words of encouragement and love. Self-limiting beliefs are those thoughts that you repeat to yourself on an occasional basis either knowingly or unknowingly.
Things like “I can’t do this”, “This is too difficult for me”, “I am not smart enough” and “I wish I was better at this” are all examples of ways you unconsciously or consciously use to limit your potential and capabilities. This may not be your fault altogether.
Sometimes we are led to believe that we are lacking in our abilities, intelligence or confidence because of our certain past experiences or due to comments made by others which indirectly affect our values and beliefs.
Don’t let your thoughts turn into your reality. Feed yourself positive and confident beliefs of yourself, and be confident that with practice, patience and/or time you will be able to achieve what you intend to.
Work on yourself, do not let these self-limiting beliefs overpower you. Take action even if it is small steps toward bigger goals in your life.
How to Conquer Self-Limiting Beliefs
Now that you have a basic understanding of what self-limiting beliefs are and what you risk losing by not fighting these, you can conquer them in a more efficient manner.
Have a Positive Belief for Every Negative One
Realize that your negative thoughts are just thoughts. Ultimately you have the power to change these negative thoughts with a more challenging positive thought.
Stop associating your achievements with struggle or lack of anything. Be prepared, acknowledge what will come your way and have the confidence that you will overcome it.
Acknowledge the Underlying Reason
For every self-doubt we carry in ourselves, there is a reason it was left there. Go to the root of the cause. Was it because of a past failure, a lack of confidence from your near and dear ones, or the experience of a bad comment made by a confidante?
Whatever the reason being, your growth spurs from you and only you. Neither of those past experiences or comments matters when you know who you truly are and what you are capable of.
Explore the Beliefs that Benefit You
Many people suggest that saying positive affirmations to yourself is a great way of instilling self-belief and eliminating self-doubt. This lays down the foundation of having faith with reinforcing new experiences. You could begin with understanding what are certain qualities that you would like to imbibe for you to be your best self.
Don’t Give Up
Learning and growing is an everyday process and you must have it in you to not let external implications matter when the main goal is self-belief. You have to continue to persevere and not let certain limiting thoughts predict who you are or what you are capable of.
It may not be easy at first but gradually you will get a hold of it, i.e., you will realize that your limiting self-beliefs have no power over you and that you are capable of achieving higher and bigger things in life.
Forgive Yourself More Often
We have all made mistakes that have led us to believe that we are not good enough whether that is in our professional lives or personal lives. You cannot hold that against yourself forever. After all, you are human and you are bound to make mistakes and what are mistakes if not lessons? As it is said, “no experience is a negative experience”. If anything, you take the lesson out of it, forgive yourself for not knowing better and step into the next chapter of your life with more confidence and more faith.
The aim of this article is not to make you believe that the end goal is to eliminate limiting beliefs completely but rather to learn to persevere and overcome those limiting beliefs and focus on the brighter side. When you shift your perspective, you realize how willing you are to conquer these limiting beliefs.
By making small changes, you will be able to train your mind to deal with bigger challenges. But in the process, you must recognize that you need to be patient with yourself and give yourself the time and kindness that you would give a loved one. Focus on positive outcomes and use these to challenge the old limiting beliefs.